Beauty of the word ALONE

Despite the contrary view, the word alone does not necessarily relate to the word loner. It is time that everyone of us view this word from a different angle and see it in a different light.

Being alone does not make you loner. In fact, it could actually show that you are independent and happy. Well, I am not saying that everyone should be alone. That would be against the human nature as we are all made in pairs. Else God won't create Eve for Adam. ;)

Heard of the following quotations before?
"Eagles fly solo" -Unknown-

I normally say this to myself; "I was in my mother's womb alone. Brought to this world alone. I survived."

I am not indicating that I do not need anyone in my life but all of us could actually do well with some time to ourselves. This is what I call me-time. I love hanging out with my friends and spending time with my family but quality me-time is essential for me to keep going and keep myself motivated.

Why me-time is great?
1. It helps you to keep in touch with yourself.
2. It helps you to look at yourself and really identify what is not right.
3. People will most of the time disappoint you and break your heart.
4. Having expectations set on others are no fun. Setting expectations on ourselves goes a loooooonnnggg way.
5. It is zen. ^_^
6. You need not deal with others and free to go with your own will.
7. Things are a lot less complicated when we deal only with one person. :p

To my dear friends, I need you. I love having you guys. I believe most of you love your me-time too. ;) It is great to share our fraction of life with friends, right? Hope you feel the same.

There are times when you REALLY need the other someone to make something in your life happens and let me tell you that that moment sucks and hurts big time. In the end, I know I will have to find me own way to deal with the disappointment so that I can be happy. Why let that lil someone bring you down? You are worth your feelings.

Anyhow, you belong to yourself. Only you can decide how to make yourself happy because you know yourself better than anyone else. Your life is yours. You share it but never give it away. That is how life is. =)

Please take note that I DO NOT write this out of sorrow. I write it to bring myself up and set aside some disappointments I am feeling right now; too personal to be broadcasted. You can continue disappointing me but I have already made up my mind; not to let others bring me down. With that, I have no expectations set what-so-ever because it will hurt me I know.

When I don't mention about something, it shows that it is not significant.
When it is not significant, I no longer think about it.
I no longer think about it because I either don't want it anymore or I do not want it from you anymore. What I want most is to be happy. If no one could make me happy, I will find ways to make myself happy. I know somewhere out there, I have a bunch of friends who can make me happy and I'm grateful. I know for sure I am happy with my family though it may be difficult at times. Guess nothing is as easy in life. =

Lunatic

I had 2 phone calls while I was out today. Both callers told my bestfriend and I don't have anything better to do. Here'z the thing. Both of us didn't feel like driving. We also don't wish to get stuck in the traffic esp when we are going to enter the city during lunch. Besides all that, we wanna save some bucks too. =p

What have we done to be given such remarks? I picked her up from her house and parked at an LRT station quite in the middle of her house and mine. We took the train to KLCC and walked to Low Yat. Are you gonna call us nuts now? Go ahead. We used to walk alot alot when we were back in school. Walking from the school to LRT station is nothing and it is not even far; just about 10-15mins walk. I've managed less than 10mins too...well, itz not far and I used to walk extremely fast. Where else have I walked to? Mmm...

1. From school to a friends house in Kg. Baru.
2. From a friend's house in Damai to Ampang Park..then to my hse..multiple times.
3. From school to my house.
4. From Ampang Point to my house.
5. From an LRT station (can't remember which station) to a friend's house in TTDI.

Furthest is number 3..think it is about 15km and nearest would be number 4.

When I was back in uni, I used to walk to anywhere I wanna go to in the campus coz I've got no car...and the feeder bus sux back then (not too sure about now..). Sometimes my friends and I would go down the apartment to take a walk too...ya know, juz to enjoy the air and chat. =)
Walking helps ease my mind too.

When is the best to walk?
1. Right after it stops raining.
2. At night. Especially when it is windy. =)

What I regret about walking? I dunno how true this is but it makes my legs big. =( I talked about it with my bestfriend...looks like we both have the same opinion. = If I were to mention this to my colleagues, they might not believe it. Ruz walked? Seriously? She could? =p
Yes guys. I walked. Well, I still love walked. LEISURELY. ;) And no..I'm not interested in hiking and the likes. =p Sowie. I mall-hop from time to time too. =p

What I do while I walk? Mmm...if i'm with a friend or two, we'll talk...sometimes sing. =p well...it all depends on the situation; can't juz sing when there's too many passerbyZ. =p Some other times, I would sing to myself...but most of the time, I do alot of thinking along the way.

Anyway, driving could sometimes increase the risk of drivers getting heart attacks or depression. Why? Too many "funny" drivers on the road to just get on our nerves. URGH! some has too much patience that the drive super slowly like that have 50hours per day. Some has no patience that they honk you to move forward even when the car in front of you is static. URGH. How smart. Guyz stop complaining about women drivers. Trust me. There are alot of funny drivers who are males out there. I've encountered many today. IT SUX!!!!!

At times like this, it is a lot better to walk in the sun. Atleast I get to walk and clear my mind. =p
Feel free to argue. I saved my petrol. Best of all, I paid 0bucks for parking today. Muahahaha

Snow White

What makes enemies better than our friends? Well, they tell the truth. If you stink, they tell you, "You stink!". If they think your hair is ugly,they tell you "Your hair is ugly." What bestfriends can do to outdo enemies is to tell the truth is a better way. It might hurt a lil to get your weakness pointed out but it is good to know than not knowing at all. If you do not know what is wrong, you won't improve. When you don't improve, you go nowhere. Be it in work or school or even life.

I would like to thank a friend who was being truthful when I asked "What do people at work think about me?". He is not my bestfriend and we had only gotten to know each other better recently when we happen to hang out. I told him to answer me and don't worry about mentioning names coz it is not important at all. The point is to know how people sees you and know what your weakness is and work from there. =)

I REALLY despise those who go behind others' back and talk about their weaknesses. If you this that person is not doing something well, go over and talk to him and maybe even suggest how he could improve. If you go to everyone in the entire world and talk bad about this guy, it won't help him at all. You are making it worse for him. He doesn't know what he is not doing right. He thinks he is fine. He thinks you are fine with him. Then you went around telling everybody there's something wrong with him and make him look bad in everyone's eyes. Tell me if this is fair and professional at all.K? If you think it is, put yourself in this person's shoes and see if you answer is still yes. If it is, lemme tell u this; THERE IS SOMETHING VERY WRONG WITH YOU. YOU HAVE NO HEART. YOU ARE PLAIN DUMB and RATIONAL and PROFESSIONAL is not in your vocab. There you have it. I'm being a friend here.

When you look into the mirror, you wanna see yourself. If you see a super model with a clean face, it definitely doesn't help you groom yourself. You won't know you hair is a mess and your face is like the surface of the moon. Would you like your mirror to do that? Or would you like your mirror to show your ugly friend's face instead just so that you can criticize her? =p

When we look into the mirror everyday, we see only our physical. To know how we are with other people and how well we are doing in life, we need a special mirror; Friends and Colleagues. Well, this mirror will only function well if these groups of people functions well. If they don't we are doomed...worst of all, we do not know we are doomed. Mirrors do not show others your flaws. They reflect your flaws in your eyes for you to improve.

B*thin' around doesn't help. Don't believe me? Read the book titled "Rule of Work". There are 10 main rules with some other sub-rules. One of it is "Don't B*tch".

To those who works with me or happen to be around me and think there is something about me that I should improve or change to be a better person, feel free to drop me a mail or nudge me on IM.K? Be a friend. Don't pretend to be one. Thanks.

Lemme stress this again. Talking bad about someone behind their backs won't help a person to improve and it is definitely NOT PROFESSIONAL. SO if you happen be a leader or supervisor, more the reason why you should talk to your subordinates and tell them what they are doing wrong. Yea...be more professional. K? Btw, before you think a person is not doing well, why don't you look into the mirror and analyze why you think this person is not doing well and ask yourself if you have done anything to help this person.

p/s: I'm not angry. I just believe things can be better if we really care. Especially if that someone is a friend.